Sisters, life isn’t fair—especially when it comes to dating as a returned missionary. You’ve spent 18 months asserting yourself and now you’re supposed to wait for some knucklehead to ask you out. Lame.
You can wait around, or you can try some of these amazing methods for being asked out.
Seven Ways to Prime the Pump
1. Promise to make him cookies but don’t.
How many times have you seen a guy happily accept a dinner invitation and then never give his host the time of day? No more.
By making the cookie offer but never following through, you will make him slightly hungry when he sees you, and give him an excuse to talk to you. If you remember that guys basically think with their stomachs, you’re half way to understanding them.
2. Appeal to his ego. It shouldn’t be hard.
Challenge him to do something outrageous or extreme with you. If you seem game he won’t back down. What self respecting guy wants to be shown up by a girl? Your shared adventure should break down the “I don’t know you barriers.” Another approach would be to show interest in something that he’s into. “Fly fishing, oh I’ve always wanted to try that.”
3. Emphasize the positives of being a returned missionary.
Isn’t everything good about being an RM? Mostly, but there are a couple sticky spots. Don’t worry with the right gloss they can be selling points.
First, guys spent two years telling themselves, “don’t like the sisters, don’t even look at sisters, sisters are bad.” So don’t do anything to remind him that you used to be mission jail-bait. Instead, draw his focus to the positives. For example, if you speak the same mission language, he will dig that.
Second, age difference. Some misguided RMs assume since you’re an RM you must be oldy-moldy. And yes…gasp…sometimes you are older than the guy. This can be easily handled. If you’re close to graduating or are working full time, develop the sugar-momma persona. You can also drop hints that unlike some of the “younger” girls, you aren’t going to ditch him to go on a mission.
4. Hire a consigliere.
Sometimes you need a little help. Have your friend drop hints to his friends that you think he’s cool. Your advisor can coach you on what needs to be done. Make sure to choose someone that won’t betray you by pursuing the guy you’re after.
5. Womanly charms.
Many preach the black arts associated with the physical. Not really what us Mormons emphasize in dating, but we can’t deny using them to a lesser extent. Just remember anything more than a slight arm touch might creep the guy out.
6. Mental powers.
Chances are you’re smarter than most guys you will date. Use it to your advantage. Ask yourself out but make him think he’s asked you out. “Hey wouldn’t it be fun to go to the dance on Friday night?”
7. If all else fails, dress in a lobster costume and do a tap dance.
For some guys it takes the literal two-by-four to the head for him to notice you. If you think it would be nice for a guy to ask you out, talk to him, introduce yourself. Never assume that just because he’s in your ward he knows you or feels comfortable talking to you.
Good luck women. Men are a little slow sometimes but eventually they get it.
If you’re willing to share your secrets for getting asked out, leave a comment.