Remember that really cute sister that every missionary was falling for? Technically she’s free game now. But just understand what you’re getting into. Below is a letter from the trenches illustrating why this kind of dating can be risky:
Sister Jones was the best missionary ever. I’m not kidding. She knew how to make friends with everyone and then discuss the gospel with them. And she could do this with French people. Let me restate; with French people. Point proven. Well, she went home and I followed a few months later. After two years of not having a girlfriend, I was a little desperate. I called her up, we made dinner together, went to a movie, I put my arm around her and she leaned into me. Success! Well, a few days later, she told me she couldn’t look at me without … well thinking about me as a missionary. My hopes were dashed. I still see her quite often…awkward…
What can we learn from our sad RM’s experience:
- After those smooth moves, it’s hard to go back to being friends. “Remember that time you tried to put your arm around me?”
- Some people may have a hang up when it comes to reconciling their former mission life and their new life. “When two worlds collide.”
- If it does work out, your fellow missionaries will delve into their mental archives for hints of your mutual affection during your faithful missionary service. “Where did you two meet?”
We aren’t saying these post mission romances can’t work out, it’s just good to know what you’re up against.